Heather Gay Admits Filming RHOSLC Helped Her Get Over Her Divorce!

Heather Gay admits that being on The Real Housewives of Salt Lake City has helped her get over her divorce during a recent appearance on Bravo's The Daily Dish podcast.

When asked how fresh her divorce was when she began filming RHOSLC, Heather explained that it’s been a few years.

“I mean, we separated nine years ago, but we’ve been officially divorced for five. And it’s still fresh to me. Like it still is painful. I can barely say ex-husband, I always say the girls’ father, or my husband. It’s hard for me to even say that,” Heather said. “I never lead with me being divorced. I don’t know why. It’s like a giant scarlet letter, like this giant stamp of failure. I’ve never been able to really break away from it.” 

Heather then revealed that doing the show helped her get over it. “Throughout filming, I was able to see myself as independent and as an individual. And this has been like, I wouldn’t say therapeutic, but it’s been healing to kind of come into my own a little bit,” she said. “Now I can say ex-husband, I can say I’m divorced without, you know, trembling and crying.” 

Heather also explained what her ex-husband thinks of the show. “He was supportive for the most part. You know, he’s a devout Mormon and it’s a huge departure from his core values. He’s nervous about how it’ll affect me as a mother and our children. But you know, he’s letting me do it. He supports us financially and emotionally, but I raise the kids and they’re with me 100 percent of the time. So, it’s more like he’s just laughing, silently judging from afar,” she said, laughing. 

The Bravo reality star went on to explain the moment she began to reframe some of her opinions about Mormonism. 

“The aha moment was really my daughters. I mean, I really thought I was setting this great example. I thought, OK, I already got divorced. Now I have to double down and even be a better mom, a stricter mom, more Mormon of a mom,” Heather said. "It was really when I kind of looked at them and recognized that I was setting them up to have the same sort of conflict that I was experiencing myself. Because I was endorsing something I didn’t truly believe in. That was my aha moment.” 

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