"Hi loves, I missed the episode last night because of pack and driving from Bethany. I appreciate Wendy’s apology, but the issue here is just how much judgement exists in the motherhood community. I’ve never in my life thought to attack a mother for her choices," she tweeted.
She continued, "As a first time mother, going through my own difficulties and trying to be present when I’m feeling withdrawn and insecure inside, the most comfort I had in that was having my child by my side. #rhop"
If you recall, Osefo and Darby got into it after Ashley showed up to Monique Samuels' lake house with baby Dean in her arms. When the women ask why her husband Michael Darby couldn't take care of their son while she was away, Darby explained that she didn't want to leave him.
"Ashley, come on now," Osefo told Darby, prompting Robyn Dixon and Gizelle Bryant to speak out in Darby's defense. "She's a new mom. Look, this is your third, don't judge," Dixon told Osefo, who welcomed baby daughter Kamrynn in July of last year.
Meanwhile, Osefo also addressed her showdown with Darby via Twitter. "My delivery was wrong. I was just missing my baby girl," she wrote. "I wish I would have been told that we could bring our babies on the trip because I would have definitely brought mine. Sending love to @_AshleyDarby. #RHOP"
Osefo then shared an article about her fight with Darby with PEOPLE. She tweeted, "Having a baby in the #NICU is something only those who have experienced it would understand. Heartbreaking is an understatement. #NicuStrong Thank you to @people for sharing my story."
Wendy told the publication the reason why she got upset that Ashley brought her baby on cast trip.
Osefo says it wasn't that she was necessarily personally upset with Darby for bringing her son — rather, she would have liked if she were "extended the same courtesy."
"I was just missing my baby," Osefo said. "If I had received the same invitation to bring my baby [on the trip] I definitely would have."
"Ashley and I, our babies are two weeks apart. Her son is actually older than my daughter. We were both exclusively breastfeeding, I'm still breastfeeding my baby and in order for me to have the ability to go on that trip for three days, I was up four days prior, around the clock, pumping so my baby would have enough milk for me to go away," Osefo explained. "I was coming from a place where I was simply saying, 'Wait, we all made sacrifices to be here and if I knew I didn't need to make that sacrifice and I could have just brought my baby, I would have done that.' I just wish I was extended the same courtesy."
Osefo explained that the girls trip was also her first time ever leaving her baby girl — and it was "heart-wrenching."
"It's so hard. The first scene you see me with Candiace, that was four weeks after I had Kamrynn. Then I did this show literally two months after having her. And for me, part of the reason that confrontation happened with Ashley and I is [because] that was my first time ever leaving my daughter," Osefo told PEOPLE. "There's fear that no one tells you lingers when you have a NICU baby. A lot of times the things that happen to them are at night, so it was heart-wrenching to leave her and then, to see another baby there, I was like: 'Oh my God, why didn't I bring her?' "
Kamrynn's was born prematurely. "Kamrynn was born at 34 weeks and because of the hospital where I had her, any baby born before 35 weeks is automatically put in the NICU," Osefo shared. "No one goes into the hospital not expecting to leave the hospital with their baby and that was the position I was in. She came early and I thank God nothing was wrong with her, but we were in the hospital for nine days," she explained.
Osefo said she never left her baby's side "even after I was discharged."
"They said, 'Go home. Your baby stays here' and I said, 'No.' I forced them to find me a room in the hospital — it didn't have a bathroom or anything and I didn't need those amenities. It was like a closet with a bed, and I stayed there every single day because my baby was in that hospital. For anybody who has ever been in the NICU, it’s the worst experience. You hear machines going off, you see babies around your baby coding, you hear families crying. Again, I thank God that Kam was healthy and she was just born early, but there were families that had been there for months. The NICU experience is something that a lot of people don’t talk about. Everyone is waiting for your baby to come home and here you are in the hospital and it’s just so sad and heartbreaking."
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