"Relationships are messy, and it's not fair to anyone to hide from the truth for the sake of criticism. Let's start there. I haven’t come to terms with everyone wanting a black and white answer of where Carter and I stand," she wrote.
"I want to scream, what about the gray parts of this, the undefinable aspects of loving and caring for someone, while knowing that they aren’t your person anymore? After the therapy, the meditation, all the steps you take to pursue actual self love, how do you define the realization that you have to move on in order to truly grow?," she continued. "I've been called a hypocrite, a villain, for not communicating what has been going on between us because it has been just that... between us. But we both deserve this weight to be lifted, so this is our version of a conscious uncoupling."
She added: "Carter and I both know and have come to terms that our new label is friends - full of the utmost love and respect. He’s one of the most wonderful people I’ve ever known. As we unravel what has been for so long such an intertwined life, it hasn't been easy. But it's a step in the right direction. It may not be the black and white answer everyone is looking for, but it's our answer and that will just have to do."
Doute confirmed their breakup after four years together, at the season 7 Vanderpump Rules reunion in May but later admitted that Carter was still living with her.
Speculation that they were back together sparked in June after they both attended Jax Taylor and Brittany Cartwright’s wedding in Kentucky.
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