When you started to process Taylor’s tantrum this week, she explained that she behaved the way she did because, as she put it, she’s already had reality TV kill one person she loved, and she’s afraid of that happening again. What did you think when she said that?
The bottom line is that Taylor has clearly walked around with a lot
of guilt about Russell’s death and that is very, very common when you have a
loved one or a spouse that commits suicide. There’s a lot of guilt that the
survivor is left with. I think survivors are always left with “How did I
contribute?” or “How was I responsible?” and the truth is, when someone takes
their life, theyare responsible. Reality TV did not kill Russell, Taylor did not kill
Russell. Clearly Russell was a disturbed person and had some mental health
issues. You don’t commit suicide if you are mentally stable and functional. I
think that when you’re in a relationship with someone who tells you repeatedly
that things are your fault, there’s even more of a tendency to take on a belief
that you’re responsible for things you’re not responsible for. I was thrilled
that this came up in therapy because I felt it was a great opportunity for her
to understand that that was not the case and to hopefully free her of some of
that survivor guilt.
Taylor talked abut how her reactions were an attempt to
cater to some of John’s needs, did he know this was how she felt and why she
was acting this way, to have control over the situation and make him happy?
John realizes that Taylor
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